Making
It Through the Impossible
Five
points to hang onto
By
Jeffrey Hansler, CSP
Freidrick
Neitzche said "That which does not kill you makes you
stronger". Harsh words that contain a great
amount of truth but do not address the "how to" of
surviving a very trying period of your life or the effects
it will have on your relationship with others.
Each
individual has a comfort zone. Each person reacts
uniquely to different situations. When the odds
against achieving a dream seem overwhelming and efforts seem
insignificant to the task, most people find themselves
outside that comfort zone.
Many
friends offer well-meaning advice. Some friends, often
your closest, may become frightened - especially now, when
everyone has a certain amount of insecurity about the
future. And what can they do? No one can give
you your dreams, only share them with you. Out of your
comfort zone and feeling isolated, you can try the following
five suggestions to help you make it through the impossible.
First,
believe that friends will give you the best they can and
thank them for that. Give your relationships breathing
room while you address your immediate needs.
Second,
list realistic options that will solve your most basic and
critical needs, even though they may be entirely
distasteful.
Third,
look for ways to leverage efforts that help you achieve your
goal.
Fourth,
write down your dream and a list of current activities that
are helping you reach your goal and a list of current
activities that are NOT helping you reach your goal.
Fifth,
acknowledge that although you now have a list of options,
you are determined to succeed by doing those activities that
will achieve your dream.
Although
you may be frightened or feel like you are trying to light a
candle in a strong wind with the last match in your
possession, remember, you can do it - tears, fears, and all.
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Jeffrey
Hansler is a professional speaker, author, and consultant.
He is a frequent speaker at association events and is the
author of Sell Little Red Hen! Sell! He can be reached at jhansler@oxfordco.com.
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